Venus has more to do with what kind of people you're attracted to, rather than the partner him/herself, but there's obviously a correlation since you would normally be attracted (physically or otherwise) to your partner.
The nature of the life/marriage partner is better indicated by the sign on the cusp of the 7th house, its ruler and any planets therein. A person with Venus in Libra like you may be attracted to a softer character, good manners and pretty looks, but with Aries and/or Mars in the 7th house the person will more than likely be partnered with someone who's quite the opposite of that. This is a very basic example, usually things get much more complex when we take the sign the 7th ruler is in, its aspects and other things into account. People are also attracted to people who have what they lack (which is the principle of the 1st-7th house axis), so someone with lots of Air could end up with someone with lots of Earth, for example, and they would balance each other. Complementary elements (Fire-Air, Water-Earth) have a natural affinity which may be just enough to create harmonic feelings between two people, but often the opposites (Fire-Water, Air-Earth) do attract each other, even if that usually doesn't work out in the end.
It's also important to remember that it's commonly accepted that Mars and the Sun represent men in general in the charts of women and that Venus and the Moon represent women in general in the charts of men. This clearly doesn't concern homosexuals in the realm of love relationships since they aren't attracted to the opposite sex.
The nature of the relationship is indicated by both the 7th and 5th houses, the latter being the house of Romance and Love Affairs. The 8th house is also important since it's common for partners to share resources, and because it is the house of sex and deep contacts, like you said. Someone with Neptune in the 8th house, for example, may be partnered with someone who's somehow underprivileged, or they may be deceived by their partner in financial matters, or both.
As for predicting when important partners, or even the "soul mate" will show up in the life, there are just too many indicators to mention in a single post. I guess the most obvious are Sun-Venus contacts in progression, Pluto transits to Venus and/or the Descendant, a heavy 7th house emphasis in a Solar Return, transiting or progressed planets in contact with the Nodes or the Vertex, but there are many, many other possibilities. Sometimes the signs that a relationship is coming are obvious just like that the most important ones usually are but most of the times the signs are much more subtle.
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[url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "ch_3_coo" <ch_3_coo@... wrote:
What can your chart tell you about who your significant other will be? I have Venus in the 9th, so someone not from the US is all I've figured so far. How can transits indicate a potential soul mate? Solar returns, etc? If you have a majority of Earth signs do you attract Watery people? If Air do you attract Fire? Would the 8th house of deep soul mate contacts tell you anything?
Sorry if I'm sounding like a teenage girl, I have Venus in Libra closely squaring Neptune conjunct my ascendant. I think about it a lot, needless to say. Any input is really appreciated.
