Relationships #78479 monogamy

[AskSatanOperator]

It seems to me that polygamy and polyamory are becoming more common than monogamy. I am a monogamous person, and I wonder if this will become harder to achieve. Is monogamy a real thing? Is it weird that I also wouldn’t be able to accept it if my partner had a promiscuous past, having sex frequently? I don’t mean past relationships, but rather a lifestyle of having sex with many women. I would find that off-putting. For me, sex is about love, emotional connection, and deep intimacy. Knowing that a partner shared it casually with others would conflict with my values and how I view relationships. Should I try to learn to accept this, even if it doesn’t feel right to me? Realistically, what are my chances of finding a monogamous husband who also doesn’t watch porn or OnlyFans? Is such a monogamous relationship normal and realistic, being exclusive to each other, or should I accept that it might not be possible or is less likely and give up?

 

[Henu the Great]

There is no factual data about what amount of populace is this or that kind. The best we know is that there are different people. Your best bet is to use Magick to find someone you truly like to have a connection with, without compromises. There are people like you out there, for sure.

 

[Karnonnos [TG]]

Monogamy is what most people prefer by instinct and is more suitable for most people at each stage they are at. It is not unnatural. You can do love spells to find any partner like this.

Although people rarely talk about this, a lot of women do find it unnerving if men are promiscuous, and some dislike men having prior sexual partners. I have had female friends like that. That's just a desire for exclusivity and stability.

However, one also has to be realistic. You cannot always expect most 16 to 30 year old andrapoda under the control of hormones to be strictly monogamous in every way. Be angry and shake the house down (in a proper way - not in a very dangerous to them way with your powers), but know their limits. The majority of men were born into a world where porn is everywhere, and it has been impressed on them since boyhood. Compulsive use of this during an active sexual relationship is not really acceptable, however.

 

[the_eye_of_anubis]

There's nothing wrong with you being monogamous and be sure that there are many men out there who wish to have the same things as you.

Regarding men having a sexual past, it depends: it's normal to have had past relationship (and sex, ofc), but if we're talking about those kind of men who would even fvck the holes in the walls, well that's a bit disgusting. (I met someone like that... I still remember the sense of nausea I had.)

You can do surely workings to attract a suitable partner with whom you can share a nice bond.

 

[AskSatanOperator]

@Henu the Great Thanks, your response makes sense, I agree with you. Yes, I don’t want to compromise on my boundaries.

@Karnonnos Thanks, I see your point. But this would be a problem for me. I still want a monogamous partner who takes responsibility in the relationship. I don't like porn and there are many reasons why I can't accept porn in a relationship. I know from experience from other females how damaging it can be. Many who fullfilled all of their husbands fantasies, yet they ended up with bad sex lives, because their husbands focused only on their own pleasure, a mindset I believe is reinforced by porn. Most porn has little connection to female pleasure and males learn from it that's sex is about them. I don’t consider it monogamy when a male watch porn or ogles other females even occasionally. It’s still getting off to other female. A lot of females older than me have complained to me about it. They felt insecure or bitter because their partners watch porn. Even now one of my friends is on the edge of divorce, one of the reason is porn. It’s a long topic for me, but I’ve a strong aversion to it and I know from those females experiences that communication alone doesn’t change the situation. I know some female don't have problem with it but I know a lot who dislike it. This isn’t universal but it’s common. So honestly I know I wouldn’t have the patience to shake the house down. I get your point but I can't compromise my wellbeing. Males are often excused while females are expected to compromise. I’m tired of hearing females often sacrificing their comfort, wellbeing for males, doing their best and putting effort into sex, relationships, only to receive in return feelings of inadequacy, lost selfworth, unequal arrangements. I’d rather be single than end up in an unhappy marriage with sad sex life and become bitter like other females. That's why I can't compromise on as Henu The Great put it because I know how it affects female psyche and it would affect me negatively as well. I’ve made this decision even if it reduces my chances to zero and makes finding a partner unlikely

 

[Epiphany]

@Henu the Great Thanks, your response makes sense, I agree with you. Yes, I don’t want to compromise on my boundaries.

@Karnonnos Thanks, I see your point. But this would be a problem for me. I still want a monogamous partner who takes responsibility in the relationship. I don't like porn and there are many reasons why I can't accept porn in a relationship. I know from experience from other females how damaging it can be. Many who fullfilled all of their husbands fantasies, yet they ended up with bad sex lives, because their husbands focused only on their own pleasure, a mindset I believe is reinforced by porn. Most porn has little connection to female pleasure and males learn from it that's sex is about them. I don’t consider it monogamy when a male watch porn or ogles other females even occasionally. It’s still getting off to other female. A lot of females older than me have complained to me about it. They felt insecure or bitter because their partners watch porn. Even now one of my friends is on the edge of divorce, one of the reason is porn. It’s a long topic for me, but I’ve a strong aversion to it and I know from those females experiences that communication alone doesn’t change the situation. I know some female don't have problem with it but I know a lot who dislike it. This isn’t universal but it’s common. So honestly I know I wouldn’t have the patience to shake the house down. I get your point but I can't compromise my wellbeing. Males are often excused while females are expected to compromise. I’m tired of hearing females often sacrificing their comfort, wellbeing for males, doing their best and putting effort into sex, relationships, only to receive in return feelings of inadequacy, lost selfworth, unequal arrangements. I’d rather be single than end up in an unhappy marriage with sad sex life and become bitter like other females. That's why I can't compromise on as Henu The Great put it because I know how it affects female psyche and it would affect me negatively as well. I’ve made this decision even if it reduces my chances to zero and makes finding a partner unlikely

This really just sounds like the female analogue to men looking for virgins.

 

[Henu the Great]

This really just sounds like the female analogue to men looking for virgins.

Kind of, and the reason for men not wanting to satisfy their partners before them is a character flaw instead, although there can be some correlation between that and watching porn.

 

[HailVictory88]

Regardless of what they say, the strong majority of women don't want a virgin man. If they did, men wouldn't claim more bodies than they have. A ton of men are virgins now, if women wanted them they'd be easy to find. But past a certain point, if a man is a virgin into adulthood, it becomes unlikely this will change.

I'm a very sensitive, altruistic, emotionally intense man who has ZERO interest in casual sex, let alone cheating. I would much rather cuddle and talk with a partner than do kinky stuff. If that was really what women wanted, I think I would know.

 

[Epiphany]

Regardless of what they say, the strong majority of women don't want a virgin man. If they did, men wouldn't claim more bodies than they have. A ton of men are virgins now, if women wanted them they'd be easy to find. But past a certain point, if a man is a virgin into adulthood, it becomes unlikely this will change.

I'm a very sensitive, altruistic, emotionally intense man who has ZERO interest in casual sex, let alone cheating. I would much rather cuddle and talk with a partner than do kinky stuff. If that was really what women wanted, I think I would know.

I do think this sort of mentality is antiquated to the times we live in. It seems to be better to just let go of things, be carefree and have fun. Having the mentality that if something deeper develops, great. If not then keep trying. But not having expectations or rigid thinking about it.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

Many or possibly most people have been harmed by lifetimes of jewish propaganda intended to destroy us. Like the YOLO idea that jews spend billions of dollars promoting around 2012. Saying that reincarnation is not real and we are only here for one time, so we should destroy our lives by harmful actions like drugs and race mixing.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

You are normal. You are the way that most people have been for most of human history. There are still many people who agree with us, even if sadly many people have been influenced to make bad choices.