Advice On Coming Out With My Lover

[ladyofbalam]

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[Shannon Outlaw]

I personally (and many other satanists would agree) find it hard and nearly impossible to have a deep spiritual sexual loving connection with anyone who isn't a satanist and understands and lives father satans grace. is he xian?if your partner gets upset or thinks you are crazy etc then maybe you may have to rethink the whole "deep connection" thing. I'm sure satanism is your life so if you would have to keep that secret etc then it is like keeping a big part of you secret from your partner. do what you must and best of luck in your relationship




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On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 9:07 PM EDT ladyofbalam wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[the_fire_starter666]

I agree as well. Do you want some hard but truthful advice? Dump him and find your Satanic soulmate or an Incubus instead. If you have to hide in a relationship or your partner is in a much lower spiritual level than you, it's not really a relationship.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:


I personally (and many other satanists would agree) find it hard and nearly impossible to have a deep spiritual sexual loving connection with anyone who isn't a satanist and understands and lives father satans grace. is he xian?if your partner gets upset or thinks you are crazy etc then maybe you may have to rethink the whole "deep connection" thing. I'm sure satanism is your life so if you would have to keep that secret etc then it is like keeping a big part of you secret from your partner. do what you must and best of luck in your relationship




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On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 9:07 PM EDT ladyofbalam wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[purevol22]

First of all do you wear any kind of metals or medallions that would have already tipped this person off? Secondly from my own past I would not advice you being truthful. If it's not broke don't fix it. Depending on his belief system he will either dismiss what you're telling him as a joke or freak out. I just know it will only have a result which you more than likely will not desire.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "ladyofbalam" <cce.b.russell@... wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[purevol22]

First of all do you wear any kind of metals or medallions that would have already tipped this person off? Secondly from my own past I would not advice you being truthful. If it's not broke don't fix it. Depending on his belief system he will either dismiss what you're telling him as a joke or freak out. I just know it will only have a result which you more than likely will not desire.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "ladyofbalam" <cce.b.russell@... wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[ch_3_coo]

I completely agree Shannon, even with friendships.

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:


I personally (and many other satanists would agree) find it hard and nearly impossible to have a deep spiritual sexual loving connection with anyone who isn't a satanist and understands and lives father satans grace. is he xian?if your partner gets upset or thinks you are crazy etc then maybe you may have to rethink the whole "deep connection" thing. I'm sure satanism is your life so if you would have to keep that secret etc then it is like keeping a big part of you secret from your partner. do what you must and best of luck in your relationship




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On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 9:07 PM EDT ladyofbalam wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[purplenurplei]

Well I guess it just takes a lot of strength, maybe be creative with how you say it?
You know you want a fullfilled relationship and a free one too, people who are without try to say religion doesn't effect relationships and it should just be put aside. But it's more than religion, it's how you guys communicate! Your beliefs matter, should, to him.
If he doesn't like it and won't accept you, someone else who is 100% more awesome and open will, and I bet you'll be happier not holding anything back
If he does accept you, well then it's a win-win, juuuust do eeeet !!!! EEEP YAAY.... got my fingers crossed for yah!

--- In [url=mailto:[email protected]][email protected][/url], "ladyofbalam" <cce.b.russell@... wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

 

[Randall McLeash]

<td val[/IMG]I must agree, for what it is worth, I would atempt to find a way to break it to your future mate. Open and above board has always worked for me in the long run and yes, good luck to you. R

--- On Wed, 6/13/12, Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:

From: Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@...
Subject: Re: [JoyofSatan666] Advice On Coming Out With My Lover
To: [email protected]
Date: Wednesday, June 13, 2012, 12:45 AM

 
I personally (and many other satanists would agree) find it hard and nearly impossible to have a deep spiritual sexual loving connection with anyone who isn't a satanist and understands and lives father satans grace. is he xian?if your partner gets upset or thinks you are crazy etc then maybe you may have to rethink the whole "deep connection" thing. I'm sure satanism is your life so if you would have to keep that secret etc then it is like keeping a big part of you secret from your partner. do what you must and best of luck in your relationship

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On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 9:07 PM EDT ladyofbalam wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

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[Brian Gibbons]

<td val[/IMG]I know from personal experience what Shannon said is true.I was married to a xtian woman who was very tolerant as well as encouraging to me.But after a couple of years with Enki,I started realizing that she was never going to except Enki,or even who I was,so I choose to end my 3 year marriage.I told Father that I only wanted a Spiritual Satanist in my life,and He took me at my word.After I ended my marriage,and was getting ready to get a divorce,I did a ritual to find my soul mate,at the same time my soul mate was doing one to find hers.We had been friends on this group for a long time,and one day we just realized that we were looking for each other all a long.Now our friendship has blossomed into the best,most comparable relationship I could ever have dreamed of.So it all depends on what you really want,do you want someone you can do rituals with,and have a truly Satanic household with,or do you want to stay with someone who will only tolerate you at best.But I have found that you have to show Father you are willing to get off one branch,for Him to put a much stronger and secure branch there for you to climb on to,that will hold the weight of all your dreams and desires.

Hail Enki
Brian 

--- On Wed, 6/13/12, ladyofbalam <cce.b.russell@... wrote:

From: ladyofbalam <cce.b.russell@...
Subject: [JoyofSatan666] Advice On Coming Out With My Lover
To: [email protected]
Date: Wednesday, June 13, 2012, 1:07 AM

  Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

[/TD]

 

[Randall McLeash]

<td val[/IMG]Hard as it must be I have to agree R

--- On Wed, 6/13/12, the_fire_starter666 <the_fire_starter666@... wrote:

From: the_fire_starter666 <the_fire_starter666@...
Subject: [JoyofSatan666] Re: Advice On Coming Out With My Lover
To: [email protected]
Date: Wednesday, June 13, 2012, 4:12 AM

  I agree as well. Do you want some hard but truthful advice? Dump him and find your Satanic soulmate or an Incubus instead. If you have to hide in a relationship or your partner is in a much lower spiritual level than you, it's not really a relationship.

--- In [[email protected]][email protected][/email], Shannon Outlaw <soutlaw92@... wrote:


I personally (and many other satanists would agree) find it hard and nearly impossible to have a deep spiritual sexual loving connection with anyone who isn't a satanist and understands and lives father satans grace. is he xian?if your partner gets upset or thinks you are crazy etc then maybe you may have to rethink the whole "deep connection" thing. I'm sure satanism is your life so if you would have to keep that secret etc then it is like keeping a big part of you secret from your partner. do what you must and best of luck in your relationship




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On Tue, Jun 12, 2012 9:07 PM EDT ladyofbalam wrote:

Well I am a proud Satanist, been one for at least seven or more years now.

This brings me to an awkward point though, I have a lover, while we deeply love and respect each others life styles. I find my self terrified to come out and tell him of my faith.

We had for a long time agreed our personal faiths would be not discussed, but we both have cracked on that one golden rule. As we both want to become closer in more then just the physical sense.

We are both aware that our religious beliefs are different, and may contrast at points. However have agreed that there would be no judgment, on either side.

I am aware I am not obliged to tell him, but as I stated up above I want to become closer, regardless of our beliefs. The main issue is how do I break it too him? I mean I tested the water a few times, with vague hints, he seemed fine with the notion. But this leaves me VERY exposed when it comes out fully.

[/TD]

 

[Way_Seeker6661]

I can tell you from experience that Fire Starter is right. I had a girlfriend who I felt more love for than I thought I was capable of feeling. Her being at a lower level Spiritually (which will come sooner or later in any relationship between a Satanist and an outsider if the Satanist actually FOLLOWS the Path) was shit for me coz she drained my energies, wanted to waste her time away etc etc etc ETC it was just a downer to my life. She was interested in Satanism and I came out and explained the Truth. She believed it too as I thoroughly answered her questions and explained everything. She said it's what she'd been looking for and what she wanted but was too fucking lazy to ever do anything even though I encouraged her to study and try Mediations, and even though she saw amazing things happening for me which Satan and my Guardian Goddess had done. I COMMIT when I love someone and so she was bringing me down and holding me back. I made the hard choice, I dumped her. And as day by day the now last bits of difficult emotions surrounding that fade away I am happier than I've been in the last 6 months, I'm making progress and my life is moving forward. I thought I'd feel like I'm nothing without her but now I am FREE and happy and so excited about life. Make the hard choice, and get closer to Satan.