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AskSatanOperator

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I know a guy, he's into me since he first saw me. But he is like this to the almost every woman in his life and probably cheated on me. We had a relationship that involves.. only sex and bed romanticism? I said I am not comfortable with it anymore, I asked him not to do it for a while, to see if we could continue the relationship without sex just for a while, and he agreed because there were almost only sex. Then he grew distant, his tolerance for me has diminished, I broke up. He still seems to have romantic feelings and he seems to love me but he also seems to love other women. Lately I can only think about him. I met one of his exes recently, she disrespected me only because she knew about my communication with him and I think the guy denied the fact that we used to be lovers. For her.
I'm sorry to take your time, I guess all these factors combined I have some reasons. I hate him so bad and at the same time I still want to be with him as well. But I know he is not right for me, he disrespected me and I need to let it go before the relationship evolves into a labyrinth. I don't think I can do the detachment meditation because I still desire to be with him, sorry for my English.
My AC is in conjunction with his DC and same situation for him, my AC is Scorpio, his Taurus. They are in conjunction degree to degree. It's a good position, isn't it? By the way, every time I do tarot readings for us, the wheel of fortune comes. I think it's partly because of this synastry and sometimes tarot readings, I'm still hopeful about him, about the relationship.
But it probably won't happen, and if it does, I'll be cheated. And I know, I will continue to hate him in my heart for disrespecting me for another woman. What should I do? How can I move forward and put this behind me?

Thank you very much for reading this far. I wanted to explain the issue with all the aspects that have become blinded in me.
 
I know a guy, he's into me since he first saw me. But he is like this to the almost every woman in his life and probably cheated on me. We had a relationship that involves.. only sex and bed romanticism? I said I am not comfortable with it anymore, I asked him not to do it for a while, to see if we could continue the relationship without sex just for a while, and he agreed because there were almost only sex. Then he grew distant, his tolerance for me has diminished, I broke up. He still seems to have romantic feelings and he seems to love me but he also seems to love other women. Lately I can only think about him. I met one of his exes recently, she disrespected me only because she knew about my communication with him and I think the guy denied the fact that we used to be lovers. For her.
I'm sorry to take your time, I guess all these factors combined I have some reasons. I hate him so bad and at the same time I still want to be with him as well. But I know he is not right for me, he disrespected me and I need to let it go before the relationship evolves into a labyrinth. I don't think I can do the detachment meditation because I still desire to be with him, sorry for my English.
My AC is in conjunction with his DC and same situation for him, my AC is Scorpio, his Taurus. They are in conjunction degree to degree. It's a good position, isn't it? By the way, every time I do tarot readings for us, the wheel of fortune comes. I think it's partly because of this synastry and sometimes tarot readings, I'm still hopeful about him, about the relationship.
But it probably won't happen, and if it does, I'll be cheated. And I know, I will continue to hate him in my heart for disrespecting me for another woman. What should I do? How can I move forward and put this behind me?

Thank you very much for reading this far. I wanted to explain the issue with all the aspects that have become blinded in me.

It is possible for him to have elements of being flirty with other women, but you also appear to have issues trusting him. You have to be careful of pre-emptively self-sabotaging something based on fears that you will be cheated, or the idea that he has "already cheated" somehow. This can become a self-fulfilling prophecy, as it creates an overly cynical view of the situation.

I understand you wanted to see how the relationship would go on without sex, but this also created a significant strain on the relationship, because you removed one of the most major acts of bonding, if not the highest form, that two couples can engage in. For many people, this is an essential activity, not a complementary one.

Instead of removing sex, you could have instead placed an emphasis on doing more together, in addition to this, not in opposition to it. As the relationship was being benefited by the mixing of energies from sex, this would have supported you to "branch out" in new ways without as much stress.

Again, yes, it is possible for him to do wrong things, too, but you have to also judge your own actions and how that could have impacted the relationship. I also don't see anywhere here where you talked about his perspective, such as what he may want or feel about what has happened.
 

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