Family #77815 Is it a crime to purposefully conceive and raise a child without a second parent?

[AskSatanOperator]

Woman here. First off, we're talking about very good finances and a big love and desire to have a child, so their quality of life would anyways be higher than in most traditional families that are otherwhise impoverished, abusive or neglectful.

I have long since wanted a child, but I don't dare conceive and (potentially permanently) alter my body, health, and take a year long break in my career. Thankfully there are alternatives nowadays, such as adopting or hiring a surrogate mother (maybe even using one's own egg). So creating the child isn't the problem here.

Another thing is that I don't have a partner at the moment, but I don't really want one, to be honest. The only element of this equation that I've always desired is having a child. What's stopping me is that I read here about how it's unhealthy for children to grow up without both a maternal and a paternal figure.

It makes sense, but given how everything is aligned in my life, the child would be in much better hands than in many 2-parent households I know, and a lot better than in foster care. Provided they're taken care of properly, would it be selfish to raise them like this?

This also includes ensuring they're attended by someone when I'm not available, like a trusted family member or nanny. Again, many children have grown up throughout the ages being watched over by people other than their parents (or even worse, by themselves or a sibling), because of divorce, death, or time constraints due to both parents working 9 to 5 jobs.

 

[Kyntara]

The children need to grow with both masculine energy and feminine energy. I mean they need both a mother and a father, not just one of them. If you conceive and raise your child without a second parent, you prevent her/him from growing in balance.

In addition, when your child sees friends who have fathers, he/she may become envy them and will experience the effects of the absence of a father.

 

[Aquarius]

So you want a child alone, then let someone else raise him because you're focused on your career? That's very egoistical and honestly terrible.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

Making the best of a bad situation is not the same thing as purposefully trying to create a bad situation. Just because people have lived through very horrible situations in the past, does not justify purposefully doing the same thing.

If you are unable to have a healthy relationship with a man, you won't be any better at dealing with a child. Children are orders of magnitude more difficult to take care of than men. Any reason why you would not want to be with a man like wanting to be independent or wanting to be alone, would be ten thousand times more difficult with a child who needs your attention and your efforts every moment.

The actual problem to work on would be to solve your psychological and karmic issues of feeling unable to exist in a good relationship with a man. Find a good man who you will be happy with, then you can build a family together. This is nature. There are reasons why humans are not able to create a child without the involvement of both a woman and a man. We are not like the few species of lizards and fish where the female creates children clones of itself with no father.

 

[Albsy]

We are not like the few species of lizards and fish where the female creates children clones of itself with no father.

Even then, they only do so under certain conditions, so they often reproduce sexually preferentially by nature.

 

[WoadWarrior]

Ol Argedco is correct here if you cant handle an adult a child is a whole other level of difficult.

Consider getting a good man and having a good relationship the first test to prove yourself for parenthood.

 

[Vivek]

If you haven't already, perhaps consider getting a pet cat/dog instead.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

If you haven't already, perhaps consider getting a pet cat/dog instead.

Even a dog is more work than a man. If the man is good at cooking food, which is a skill that all people are supposed to have, then it takes no effort to keep a man alive because he can keep himself alive.

Of course it takes time and effort to maintain a relationship, that is not what I mean. But a man is not dependent on anybody else for survival, when a pet is. A man is a million times easier than a child, unless it is a childish bullshit man.

 

[Vivek]

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True, I was more so thinking it may end up being able to satisfy the same desire she is trying to fulfill with a child.