I don't personally see the SS as a loose congregation of loners. We are independent and strong minded individuals. I don't necessarily see how being independent and self-sufficient translates into being a loner? Though that said, we don't have a problem working on our own...
We work to empower ourselves, we don't appeal to more powerful Beings in a slavish way; though we do look up to our powerful Gods as the big (REALLY BIG) Brothers and Sisters that they are. And we especially look up to Father. We might feel compelled from time to time to ask one them to help us in some manner, but we still know we have to do our own work too, so we try our best to solve our own problems first. And its a give and take relationship. You give to the Gods too. I don't ask much of them myself. I try not to bother them with my petty stuff. If they helped us with every little thing, they actually would be doing us harm because in order to grow and learn, sometimes one has to fall down and skin a knee. We each go through our own struggles. That's part of growing and evolving as we strive to advance ourselves in Satanism.
I personally have found I don't really NEED to ask, because it seems that as I struggle, IF I really need it, I get their help. Its like you see a little one struggling, and they don't have enough know how or power, so you lean over and extend a hand sometimes, unasked. Because that's the right thing to do. The Jew helps only themselves, by contrast. They are totally alien to us in every way. And Xianity is one of their programs created to rob us of our power and turn us into slaves. I would send you the link but I see black wyrm already did so
We support one another and work together for Satan. That support might be encouragement, sending helpful links, sending someone some energy in special personal cases perhaps. But this pray for me thing is really Xian and no, we don't do that. If you want help you first do all you can to help yourself through meditation and taking actions, not by doing nothing and 'praying' for the solutions to be handed to you. Doesn't work that way. We each take responsibility for ourselves. So we do our personal best and strive every day, and if we still need a hand, then one of our Gods will give us a helping hand. There is no need to feel anxious or depressed or to be appealing to them constantly. I just trust that if it's truly needed, they will help me because I am a little Sister and they are wonderful Beings who are really loving and help when its appropriate. And that said, sometimes the best help is to let a person learn something the hard way on their own.
The key here is you first do your own work. Satanism is not for the weak, it requires a lot of work. But that work is also a lot of FUN! It feels so great when you see the progress you make for yourself, and learn new things and advance yourself. It's very rewarding! That's part of the Joy in Joy of Satan I think! And lucky you, you found JOS! You now have a roadmap of how you can empower yourself and also in the process help Father and this World. And that's a fucking awesome thing. So be joyful, stick that nose to the grindstone, and get busy! There is much to do!
And don't forget to do those RTR's daily!
Hail Father Satan Forever!