I am tired of this (long thread, sorry...)

[the_eye_of_anubis]

Hello everyone!

I apologise again for my absence; I'm having a really busy life.

I am writing this post partly as a kind of vent and partly to see if anyone who has been in a similar situation can offer any suggestions.

This post may be long, so I ask for your patience.

The crux of the matter is that I am tired of men ruining my peace, sanity and days. Whenever I meet a man, I always end up getting hurt and suffering, even obsessing over him. Let me explain what happened.

In March, I met this guy while taking my usual 15-minute break from work at the bar. He was tall with black hair and wore glasses. He was also well dressed. I was immediately attracted to him and managed to find out his name through a mutual friend. I added him on Instagram and we started talking. He told me that he was single since a couple of months, that he wasn't even having sex with anyone and he also told me something about his ex girlfriend, that he described as "really jealous and paranoid" and how sad he was when she decided to break up with him. I should point out that I had not had sexual relations with anyone since September 2024, when I left my ex. This must surely have influenced things, because I was VERY attracted to him physically.

From the beginning, he made it clear that he was only interested in a physical relationship. At first, I was too, but then I started thinking that maybe I could change his mind.

After about 20 days of messaging, we decided to meet and we had sex. Afterwards, I asked him if he would like to see each other again, and he said yes. However, the next day he completely disappeared. He ghosted me.

Of course, I was very hurt and suffered a lot. I started getting paranoid thinking that maybe I had sucked during the deed or maybe I had been too clingy to him. A week later I met him casually on the street and it was obvious that he was uncomfortable, he wouldn't look me in the eye and was making excuses like "I'm very busy, I have a hectic life..." While talking to me, he would look away and use his cell phone, a clear sign of discomfort.

A month later, exactly on Beltane Day, I met our mutual friend at a festival here in my town. I told him everything that had happened between me and the boy in question and, what can I say? I learned things that literally made me vomit.

I learned that he had been lying to me the whole time, that he had never been engaged to the girl he had told me about (in fact, this girl doesn't even exist!!), that the same thing he did to me he did to so many other girls and that probably, while he was talking to me, he was also talking to another girl... Basically, sorry for being vulgar but it's exactely the truth, If he could fuck the holes in the walls, he would.
Coming to know these things for me was a bad blow, luckily there were my friends with me who helped me not to think about it because I swear to you, I was getting sick.

now the problem is: even if I realized that this guy is a literal WALKING SHIT, I somehow cannot get him out of my mind. I still cannot believe that I was so stupid to believe him and I ask myself why did this happen, and why do I still feel something for him despite everything he did...?

I also managed to do the Mother Lilith power ritual, where in tears I told her that I am sick and tired of always giving my power to men and That I want to finally end this toxic cycle that make me subconsciously look for emotionally detached men to prove my value. I told her that I wanna step into my full power, without questioning my value or basing it on how many people love me: I wanna be enough for MYSELF ONLY!! I am also doing detaching (again...) to destroy the connection with this guy ( I have a question: I felt it a lot in my third chakra...why?) but yet I cannot put my soul at rest and move on.

I am really sorry if I often make sad posts but I am so mad at myself because, even if thanks to meditation and inner work I am learning to see how lovable I am and How powerful I can be, I end up doing the same mistakes...
have any of you been through this situation before? how did you get out of it?
thank you if you have read this far, I really needed to throw out what I was feeling.

Hail Zeus and the Gods!!

 

[Henu the Great]

I would suggest freeing of the soul working to remove the karmic seeds that put you in this position, and then doing workings to attract a suitable partner.

And you should be more responsible. Deciding to have sex with someone after messaging alone is not very wise.

 

[the_eye_of_anubis]

I would suggest freeing of the soul working to remove the karmic seeds that put you in this position, and then doing workings to attract a suitable partner.

And you should be more responsible. Deciding to have sex with someone after messaging alone is not very wise.

thanks <3 I will surely do the free the soul working, but at least for now it's better if I take a break from relationships. I wanna learn to be fine with myself, first

 

[AFODO]

Not all men are like this, as Henu said do a freeing working. Things are fated in life, it's just something that had to happen.

 

[the_eye_of_anubis]

Not all men are like this, as Henu said do a freeing working. Things are fated in life, it's just something that had to happen.

The fact Is that I would really enjoy having sex with someone I'm only attracted to without falling in the "obsessive" cycle over and over.

I would like to be more detached from that perspective. Would the freeing the soul working solve this issue,too?

 

[AFODO]

The fact Is that I would really enjoy having sex with someone I'm only attracted to without falling in the "obsessive" cycle over and over.

I would like to be more detached from that perspective. Would the freeing the soul working solve this issue,too?

Well yes I would say that's a good first step, and also read your natal chart because I'm sure there is an aspect there that make you fall in obsessive love easily. So basically doing a freeing working for sexual karma will help with this problem.

Afterwards you can do love spell to attract the most fitting man to you.
Ideally as a woman you would need to choose from suitors, in old fashion, and not chase man. Especially our Zevist woman, you ALL are queens.
Man must come to you and kiss your toes, and offer his everything to you, because you are a queen among peasants, chosen by the Gods.

 

[AFODO]

Well yes I would say that's a good first step, and also read your natal chart because I'm sure there is an aspect there that make you fall in obsessive love easily. So basically doing a freeing working for sexual karma will help with this problem.

Afterwards you can do love spell to attract the most fitting man to you.
Ideally as a woman you would need to choose from suitors, in old fashion, and not chase man. Especially our Zevist woman, you ALL are queens.
Man must come to you and kiss your toes, and offer his everything to you, because you are a queen among peasants, chosen by the Gods.

Y'all also need a wealthy man so you can be a full time mother. It's not your job to make money.

 

[Demonic]

The fact Is that I would really enjoy having sex with someone I'm only attracted to without falling in the "obsessive" cycle over and over.

I would like to be more detached from that perspective. Would the freeing the soul working solve this issue,too?

You can free yourself from this particular "obsession", by directing energies at it with a modified affirmation, "I m now completely and totally free from obsessing over wrong people in a positive and safe way for me". I added wrong people because when a right person comes around and it turns into love, some people see obsession as healthy, comes down to personal preference. If you want it completely gone you can remove "wrong people" from affirmation.

If you want to go further with this, you can safely use Isa on yourself and you can prevent an obsession from developing at all.

Freeing the soul takes care of any and all obstacles preventing you from having/achieving something.

 

[the_eye_of_anubis]

Y'all also need a wealthy man so you can be a full time mother. It's not your job to make money.

I actually don't want kids I don't like children and I literally have no patience or energy to stand them. Moreover, I like the idea of having a rich man but I wanna work, too. It's better to NEVER depend on a man, or on anyone

I'm sure there is an aspect there that make you fall in obsessive love easily

mmmh... could it be my Scorpio Mars?

If you want to go further with this, you can safely use Isa on yourself and you can prevent an obsession from developing at all

thanks!! Should I do it whenever I meet someone I'm attracted to, to avoid the obsession?

 

[Demonic]

thanks!! Should I do it whenever I meet someone I'm attracted to, to avoid the obsession?

Not necessarily, you can start in a good moon sign when it goes waxing, the energies will stay, be there and work whenever you meet someone.

But i would advice the first one, freeing yourself from this particular obsession, as it will also take care of any underlying issues you have causing the obsession.

The Isa here would work like a painkiller in a headache, the pain will still be there, you just wont be able to feel it anymore, it doesn't uproot the issue, freeing yourself does.

A combination of both would work good and is best course of action, if you have time.

Still, if you only choose to go with Isa, then make sure you clean regularly and you are building an aop.

 

[Ol argedco luciftias]

Have high standards and make good decisions. Being with a man who you don't even know is not a good decision.

 

[Dmon666]

Hello everyone!

I apologise again for my absence; I'm having a really busy life.

I am writing this post partly as a kind of vent and partly to see if anyone who has been in a similar situation can offer any suggestions.

This post may be long, so I ask for your patience.

The crux of the matter is that I am tired of men ruining my peace, sanity and days. Whenever I meet a man, I always end up getting hurt and suffering, even obsessing over him. Let me explain what happened.

In March, I met this guy while taking my usual 15-minute break from work at the bar. He was tall with black hair and wore glasses. He was also well dressed. I was immediately attracted to him and managed to find out his name through a mutual friend. I added him on Instagram and we started talking. He told me that he was single since a couple of months, that he wasn't even having sex with anyone and he also told me something about his ex girlfriend, that he described as "really jealous and paranoid" and how sad he was when she decided to break up with him. I should point out that I had not had sexual relations with anyone since September 2024, when I left my ex. This must surely have influenced things, because I was VERY attracted to him physically.

From the beginning, he made it clear that he was only interested in a physical relationship. At first, I was too, but then I started thinking that maybe I could change his mind.

After about 20 days of messaging, we decided to meet and we had sex. Afterwards, I asked him if he would like to see each other again, and he said yes. However, the next day he completely disappeared. He ghosted me.

Of course, I was very hurt and suffered a lot. I started getting paranoid thinking that maybe I had sucked during the deed or maybe I had been too clingy to him. A week later I met him casually on the street and it was obvious that he was uncomfortable, he wouldn't look me in the eye and was making excuses like "I'm very busy, I have a hectic life..." While talking to me, he would look away and use his cell phone, a clear sign of discomfort.

A month later, exactly on Beltane Day, I met our mutual friend at a festival here in my town. I told him everything that had happened between me and the boy in question and, what can I say? I learned things that literally made me vomit.

I learned that he had been lying to me the whole time, that he had never been engaged to the girl he had told me about (in fact, this girl doesn't even exist!!), that the same thing he did to me he did to so many other girls and that probably, while he was talking to me, he was also talking to another girl... Basically, sorry for being vulgar but it's exactely the truth, If he could fuck the holes in the walls, he would.
Coming to know these things for me was a bad blow, luckily there were my friends with me who helped me not to think about it because I swear to you, I was getting sick.

now the problem is: even if I realized that this guy is a literal WALKING SHIT, I somehow cannot get him out of my mind. I still cannot believe that I was so stupid to believe him and I ask myself why did this happen, and why do I still feel something for him despite everything he did...?

I also managed to do the Mother Lilith power ritual, where in tears I told her that I am sick and tired of always giving my power to men and That I want to finally end this toxic cycle that make me subconsciously look for emotionally detached men to prove my value. I told her that I wanna step into my full power, without questioning my value or basing it on how many people love me: I wanna be enough for MYSELF ONLY!! I am also doing detaching (again...) to destroy the connection with this guy ( I have a question: I felt it a lot in my third chakra...why?) but yet I cannot put my soul at rest and move on.

I am really sorry if I often make sad posts but I am so mad at myself because, even if thanks to meditation and inner work I am learning to see how lovable I am and How powerful I can be, I end up doing the same mistakes...
have any of you been through this situation before? how did you get out of it?
thank you if you have read this far, I really needed to throw out what I was feeling.

Hail Zeus and the Gods!!

Girl I so feel for you.... Reminds me of all the times when I was stupid and delusional and I just looked past all the red flags (OMG this girl is so cute she's absolutely perfect I'm just going to look past all the subtle signs and warnings) just remember every single time that we have heartbreak and failure it's always because of some kind of delusion we are under, it's amazing how many times I've chosen the easy path when the warning was right there but we refuse to heed to it because we as creatures don't like taking the hard path we're used to the easy path ,the way of the truth is hard and only for the strong and high vibrational, the path of lies is vast and easy to believe. I'm glad that you were talking to Lilith for she is the embodiment of Independence for women but choose the hard path even if it means you have to suffer because it's worth it in the end , the real truth is eternal but all lies come to an end they may give you temporary pleasure but it always crumbles in the end. The reason why I'm saying all of this is I finally realized after I hit rock bottom a few weeks ago that the problem with humans is we are just lazy even though that is a relative term we always tend to take the path of least resistance I know it sucks and the truth can be ugly sometimes but please I plead for you that you will become stronger and more independent just like Lilith. You seem like such a sweet nice lady that just wants a man she can love but gets taken advantage of and I almost feel like men can feel that or sense it in you like you're attracting these type of predators to you.

 

[Soul Wings]

...From the beginning, he made it clear that he was only interested in a physical relationship. At first, I was too, but then I started thinking that maybe I could change his mind....

After about 20 days of messaging, we decided to meet and we had sex. Afterwards, I asked him if he would like to see each other again, and he said yes. However, the next day he completely disappeared. He ghosted me....

Firstly I want to say I'm sorry to hear you've been getting in these situations.
I think this part of the post (bolded) stuck out the most for me.
If you want long term, which it seems like you do deep down, I would recommend avoiding men who are too sexual too quickly/early and give into their sexual temptations easy. This makes a weak long term partner. Yes... This may mean turning down these pretty boys that take whatever comes their way and continually (after the casual phase) refuse commitment.
If they do it with you, they will do it with others too.
Men are usually clear with their intentions with their actions, and in this case surprisingly he made it clear to you it was physical only, however some men hide this and you have to watch their actions like a hawk.