I knew of someone who stated to her sister that she never wanted an open casket funeral, or for people to visibly see her if she passed because she wouldn't want anyone to remember her that way. Not like this was planned, but the loved ones that the deceased were close to before the unexpected happen, they absolutely know and remember. The family had an open casket funeral anyway, ignoring the sister and disrespecting the wishes of the deceased. This was upsetting obviously, because she is still angry about it to this day
But know this, whatever people around you do for this arrangement, has no power over you. That is more so their fault for disrespectfully inserting jew worship instead of remembering the life you've lived