Relationships #75573 not being able to set boundaries in a romantic relationship

[AskSatanOperator]

when I start a relationship I compromise my self-love, my self-respect and everything, the understanding of "love" that I have makes this happen. there is no you or me, the feelings I have for myself and the feelings I have for him, I pour it all into the relationship and into that person. it's be out of for me. it holds me back in everything, I can't get things done, I'm tired all the time and my character is greatly weakened by the end of the relationship.

when I try to change my perception of love, I find that I can't get emotional fulfillment and the same goes for sex. if all this doesn't result in obsession and abuse from the other person, it results in a betrayal of myself and it takes me a long time to recover. what can I do to prevent this? and sorry for my english.

 

[Symmachos-ZEUS/SHAITAN]

abuse from the other person

Try to follow this series of steps:

PRELIMINARY: Remove parasitic ties with anyone who is abusive to you (while doing the next things)

How to Detach Unwanted People/Entities from Your Aura

1) Value yourself: you are a Satanist. You are not the slave of some andrapoda who spends his life abusing you because he is worthless on his own and needs to parasitize someone else.

2) Heal and strengthen yourself emotionally:

Healing the Emotional Body (for men too, don’t disregard this)

You have your physical body, soul, astral body, mental body, and more. The Emotional Body is the part of the soul that can be damaged when you experience emotional trauma, grief, bereavement, abandonment, and so on. Many people have emotional outbursts, immature reactions, trigger episodes...

ancient-forums.com

3) Attract the people who are truly positive for you: https://satanisgod.org/AURA.html

4) Establish healthy relationships:

Futhark/Odin

In case of need, if you see that someone turns out to be a real danger, do not hesitate:

Fighting Back

satanisgod.org

At least that's what I would do.

 

[DarkPagan666]

In addition to the above:

This is not uncommon for people who deeply invest in others, but may neglect their own needs in the process. Love in this case is often seen as something that requires self-sacrifice, but true love should enhance your life, not diminish it.

One key change for you can be to look upon love as a shared experience between two complement individuals, where both people continue to maintain their own identities, but work in unison to uplift each other. You should not and do not have to lose yourself in order to love someone else.

Setting clear boundaries doesn't mean you love anyone less, rather, it means you love and respect yourself while still caring for the other person. Establishing personal boundaries can allow anyone to maintain their own hobbies, passions, and time alone, which is crucial in many respects.

When we look for emotional fulfillment primarily in a partner, it can sometimes lead to dependency. It's important to cultivate an emotional well-being within yourself, so that you're not relying on someone else to “fill you up”, so to speak.

Self-validation is another example that is important to remind yourself of your strengths, achievements, and the qualities that make you as a being unique. By becoming more self-aware here, you can start to change how you interact with other people, and/or in future relationships.

The most important relationship is the one you have with your own self. When you're centered in your own self-love and respect, you won't be so easily swayed or diminished by the negative dynamics of any relationship, as your strength is solely internal.

In essence, it all bleeds down to balance. Relationships should be a source of joy and connection, not depletion. When you are able to recognize your own needs, setting boundaries, and nurturing yourself, you can have a much healthier and stronger dynamic with both yourself and your future partner(s).

 

[monomotapa]

HHo

In addition to the above:

This is not uncommon for people who deeply invest in others, but may neglect their own needs in the process. Love in this case is often seen as something that requires self-sacrifice, but true love should enhance your life, not diminish it.

One key change for you can be to look upon love as a shared experience between two complement individuals, where both people continue to maintain their own identities, but work in unison to uplift each other. You should not and do not have to lose yourself in order to love someone else.

Setting clear boundaries doesn't mean you love anyone less, rather, it means you love and respect yourself while still caring for the other person. Establishing personal boundaries can allow anyone to maintain their own hobbies, passions, and time alone, which is crucial in many respects.

When we look for emotional fulfillment primarily in a partner, it can sometimes lead to dependency. It's important to cultivate an emotional well-being within yourself, so that you're not relying on someone else to “fill you up”, so to speak.

Self-validation is another example that is important to remind yourself of your strengths, achievements, and the qualities that make you as a being unique. By becoming more self-aware here, you can start to change how you interact with other people, and/or in future relationships.

The most important relationship is the one you have with your own self. When you're centered in your own self-love and respect, you won't be so easily swayed or diminished by the negative dynamics of any relationship, as your strength is solely internal.

In essence, it all bleeds down to balance. Relationships should be a source of joy and connection, not depletion. When you are able to recognize your own needs, setting boundaries, and nurturing yourself, you can have a much healthier and stronger dynamic with both yourself and your future partner(s).

How can I love myself.how can I be normal in a relationship and focus on my personal happiness instead of the happiness of those I fall for

 

[DarkPagan666]

HHo

How can I love myself.how can I be normal in a relationship and focus on my personal happiness instead of the happiness of those I fall for

Self-love is about accepting, respecting, and caring for yourself. It’s about treating yourself with the same kindness, patience, and protection you would offer to someone you love.

You are your own person with your unique strengths, qualities, and talents. Recognize that you are enough as you are, while still striving to grow and advance in healthy ways, constantly becoming a better version of yourself. This can be achieved through studying, meditating, practicing yoga, or working with magick to improve different areas of your life or to strengthen traits within your character. It involves acknowledging your weaknesses and working to mitigate or even overcome them. This in turn will cultivate inner strength and genuine self-love.

Self-love also means doing things purely for yourself, be it hobbies, passions, or even silly little joys. Not necessarily because they are productive or because someone else approves, but simply because they light you up and makes you happy.

You do not have to go out of your way to help or please others. If you notice yourself feeling anxious when someone else is unhappy, pause and ground yourself. You are responsible for your own emotions, just as others are responsible for theirs. You can still be supportive and compassionate, while also protecting yourself. Knowing and respecting your boundaries is essential here.

It’s important to understand that overcoming burdens like this and healing this is not a one-time fix; it’s a daily practice that unfolds gradually over time. Some days you’ll feel like you’ve nailed it, and other days you might slip back into old patterns, and that's perfectly normal. The key is consistency and to never give up on yourself. As you grow and advance, you will gently become your true self. This is imperative.

Further reading on this subject (old sermons, but golden):

1. Satan, Self-Love and Identity

2. Accepting One's Self