Family don't know if is right for me to have children

[Dina's]

I am a mixed woman (white, black, and asian) and, honestly, I have already dealt with most of my self-hatred in relation to this, but the consequences of this mix are strong in my family and in our karma (including an extensive history of psychiatric hospitalizations and complicated illnesses). I have suffered a lot from this, but now I find myself surviving and walking in search of balance. My question is, in my country it is not difficult to find people who are as mixed as I am, but I have a dream of being a mother, of forming a proper family and raising good children who will make a better future, with a person of the ideal race, but, is this a good idea, considering the karmic and racial consequences this may have for my future children? I deeply love the idea of being a mother and giving birth, but I don't want to condemn children to unhappy lives and terrible health and karma suffering because of my desires. So, in short, is it a good idea for me to marry a racially ideal partner and build a family, or should I avoid reproduction because of the problems of mixed race, or at most should I adopt?

 

[Brandonn]

I am a mixed woman (white, black, and asian) and, honestly, I have already dealt with most of my self-hatred in relation to this, but the consequences of this mix are strong in my family and in our karma (including an extensive history of psychiatric hospitalizations and complicated illnesses). I have suffered a lot from this, but now I find myself surviving and walking in search of balance. My question is, in my country it is not difficult to find people who are as mixed as I am, but I have a dream of being a mother, of forming a proper family and raising good children who will make a better future, with a person of the ideal race, but, is this a good idea, considering the karmic and racial consequences this may have for my future children? I deeply love the idea of being a mother and giving birth, but I don't want to condemn children to unhappy lives and terrible health and karma suffering because of my desires. So, in short, is it a good idea for me to marry a racially ideal partner and build a family, or should I avoid reproduction because of the problems of mixed race, or at most should I adopt?

What is the ideal race in this case ?

If your mixed, you won't be able to correct that through one generation. Your kids would also have to marry correctly in order to re-strengthen yours racial lineage. Which isn't something you can control, but can try to influence through what you teach your kids.

 

[High Priestess Lydia]

I am a mixed woman (white, black, and asian) and, honestly, I have already dealt with most of my self-hatred in relation to this, but the consequences of this mix are strong in my family and in our karma (including an extensive history of psychiatric hospitalizations and complicated illnesses). I have suffered a lot from this, but now I find myself surviving and walking in search of balance. My question is, in my country it is not difficult to find people who are as mixed as I am, but I have a dream of being a mother, of forming a proper family and raising good children who will make a better future, with a person of the ideal race, but, is this a good idea, considering the karmic and racial consequences this may have for my future children? I deeply love the idea of being a mother and giving birth, but I don't want to condemn children to unhappy lives and terrible health and karma suffering because of my desires. So, in short, is it a good idea for me to marry a racially ideal partner and build a family, or should I avoid reproduction because of the problems of mixed race, or at most should I adopt?

There are so many innocent children who do not have a home. It sounds like you are very loving, and giving children a good home would be a fulfilling purpose in life. You can determine if you are more Black or Asian and adopt children of that race to give them a sense of belonging together, and belonging with you.

If you have biological children with a partner of your ideal race, those children would still be race-mixed and at risk of inheriting the illnesses you mentioned.

Adopting or conceiving children would of course depend on your partner, so you can do a love working to find a good partner for you, and then talk it over with him about what path to take regarding children. If you meet a man who is also race-mixed, he might also see the merit in adopting.

 

[Dina's]

What is the ideal race in this case ?

If your mixed, you won't be able to correct that through one generation. Your kids would also have to marry correctly in order to re-strengthen yours racial lineage. Which isn't something you can control, but can try to influence through what you teach your kids.

I meant someone with the same mixed races as me, in the sense of “ideal race”! Sorry if that wasn't clear, thank you for your reply, it really makes a lot of sense, it's more complex than I thought.

 

[Dina's]

There are so many innocent children who do not have a home. It sounds like you are very loving, and giving children a good home would be a fulfilling purpose in life. You can determine if you are more Black or Asian and adopt children of that race to give them a sense of belonging together, and belonging with you.

If you have biological children with a partner of your ideal race, those children would still be race-mixed and at risk of inheriting the illnesses you mentioned.

Adopting or conceiving children would of course depend on your partner, so you can do a love working to find a good partner for you, and then talk it over with him about what path to take regarding children. If you meet a man who is also race-mixed, he might also see the merit in adopting.

Thank you very much for your answer High Priestess Lydia, I hold your words in high regard and am happy to have received a reply from you. I am also grateful because I was afraid of not being able to become a mother, as it has been my dream since childhood, and your answer take this fear away. I am really happy that adoption is an option, it is reassuring to know that I can have a normal family, that I will be able to raise children and be happy.

I will take your words to heart, Thank you again.