Is it okay to feel so drawn to female Deity?

[Goldenwings]

In real life i avoid my friends wifes, i avoid being in contact with them or having their number or looking at them while we are together or entering in long discussion with them,this is part of the ethics i stand on, but this infiltrated my relationships to the Gods when i radiate love toward a female Deity that is married i feel like if i am being disrespectful

Is it okay to spam a Female Deity with love feelings ? Or it shouldnt be in excess out of respect? Since i feel very drawn to her and feel pure love thinking of her, but it makes me think i should instead focus on a male Deity instead out of respect , since i feel like doing opposite of what i stand on, in real life the opposite of what i said above i consider it disrespect..

Same for God rituals, i feel i should go for male Gods rituals more out of respect, does this have truth in it ? Or its irrelevant when we talk to Gods.

I am confused about the ethics between Gods and humans. What i end up doing is projecting the way i deal with humans on the Gods