Girlfriend attached to previous lover. need help

[wisdom seeker of today]

Hello everyone,
I recently got into relationship with a girl I liked, but was previously in a relationship with another person whom she knew for 4 years and was in a relationship with for 6 months. Their relationship was mostly long distance. They broke up 3 months ago. After that I confessed my feelings to her and she accepted. But sometimes she says that she misses her ex as she knew him for long and had grown an attachment towards him. I understand her feelings but I'm afraid that this could affect our relationship. What should I do to get rid of that attachment and the feeling she has for that person.

 

[13th_Wolf]

You can write and say a prayer to a related God or Goddess to preface workings such as "Dear Lord/Queen _, --" to ask for help in this affair specifically and then to ensure blessings in your relationship going forward.

You can either then do an energy working for 40 or 90 days with freeing words (such as Ansuz, Uruz) or maybe go into trance at later hours when she is asleep, freeing and reprogram via that method with applied energy/intent if this is possible. One or both of these would be more than enough.

 

[13th_Wolf]

How to petition the gods for help.

How do I go about asking a specific god for something specifically related to my problems ? I know to do the god rituals, but what do I do after/during that ? At the end of the ritual, do I visualize their sigil while doing void ? Or just empty my mind and feel their energy ? Is there anything...

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[Pavano]

Look, honestly, brother, that's not something she should be saying. Honestly, I can't imagine that as a relationship with a future.

 I would say it's best to reconsider, because even with magic this would still be strange; she's not the love of your life, there may be countless others who are a better fit for you.

Don't let your emotions get the better of you, use your reason. She just got out of a relationship. After that happens, women become more fragile and even "easier" to get into a relationship with someone. Often, she only accepted it for that reason, to heal herself, something I don't see as wrong, I just think it's kind of idiotic for someone to put themselves in that position.

There may be exceptions, but they are rare. Don't think that will be your case, I'm saying this for your own good. Good luck.

Hail Zeus

 

[Emergent13]

But sometimes she says that she misses her ex

So, not only once, but multiple times, she said, while looking at your face, that she misses another man... I don't want to sound harsh but that's very sad in my opinion.

I understand her feelings but I'm afraid that this could affect our relationship.

Could? This already does affect your relationship. What's there to understand? It's her fault, she should've moved on before getting into a relationship with someone else. She thinks about another man while you care about her. Isn't that basically cheating?

What should I do to get rid of that attachment and the feeling she has for that person.

Assuming that you're initiated, why not find someone who is genuinely attracted to you? You deserve someone who loves you for who you are and makes your life easier and more pleasant.

You can do workings for attracting a suitable partner. While putting in the work, you can also humbly ask Gods for their guidance and help.

You're a Zevist and you deserve a fulfilling relationship, and you already have faculties to get there, so be more nice and rewarding to yourself brother. Good luck and Hail Zeus!

 

[AFODO]

I can't agree with the negative comments because I think it's completely normal for her to miss her ex as it only happened 3 months ago. Relationships are not like one day you are strangers and the other day you are happily married, sworn for a life and bonded in the highest dimensions.

I can assure you if your relationship plays out well with her, this will go away with time. If not, then you were not meant to be. Period. But regardless, you can help her detach from her ex in various ways. You can do the detachment working listen on ToZ, ask the Gods for help, or simply affirm into her aura.

 

[Oroboros]

Beaware you may become a friend/sex slave( subconsciously), you will feel you should be a better person than her previous partner, you will be pushed into satisfying her in all ways so that "she forgets" and without realising it you will become a servant/slave, what she is doing is lack of respect. It also serves as a manipulation tactic whether she did it intentionally or not..

This is my personal opinion, in case you think what she is doing is okay, i do not judge, you are free, i just said my opinion..

You deserve better, you deserve a girl that loves you, i do not want you to be hurt, stay safe

 

[Emergent13]

I can't agree with the negative comments because I think it's completely normal for her to miss her ex as it only happened 3 months ago

I'll admit that my comment was a bit excessive. Especially the comment about cheating. It's inevitable to subconsciously compare if you've had previous partners and it's factual that the more partners you've had, the harder it is to bond with someone new.

However, I don't think it's okay to tell that to his face. You don't get into a relationship before moving on, that's basic human decency. She may have wanted to move on, but she was unable to. That's unfortunate, but she made it clear multiple times that the OP is not enough for her. It would be in his best interest to find someone who actually loves him.

This is just my opinion.