i need an advice on my mindset

[karmavasita0]

hi,
i need an advice on my mindset about my relationship. i’m being selfish and delusional, but i don’t know how to start putting myself straight.
i make up fake scenarios on my mind which leads me to think that my partner doesn’t love me anymore. i start to think like that whenever we don’t chat much (bc it’s school holiday and we’re apart for two weeks now) i have a confidence and i can be the center of attention easily, so my trust issues are not about him finding someone better looking etc. it’s all in my mind.

i know i’m being childish. i have always been afraid of loving someone, and i still have. those thoughts bring me down. also it’s my first committed relationship, so i’m not mature enough.

what should i do to come through this mentally? what kind of affirmations should i repeat? i will try to focus on myself more, i know there is a problem with me.(bc he really tells every detail of him, his family/friends know me, he does everything to make me feel good; but when i feel he is being distant, i start making up those scenarios)

 

[Blitzkreig [JG]]

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For myself, this type of behavior of relationship fears was addressed by removing the karma surrounding my Venusian energies. This can also come from the 7th house, as well.

I had used Munka workings for removing negative social karma, plus I had done 2 Venus Squares for a general improvement to the Venus aspect of my soul. Over the course of these, my fears would come up, but then I would feel better afterward.

It is good that you have a general sense of confidence, but confidence pertaining to romantic love is related more to Venus. A Saturn aspect to Venus will make some feel like they need to always try harder, for example.

Looking at the home sign of Venus, Libra, we can see that the basis of love is about harmonizing yourself with your partner, which is a mutual exchange of energy. If you had negative karma holding back your Venus, then you may expect this harmonization process to be negatively impacted somehow.

In the case of having a Venus aspect to Saturn, removing the negative karma would still leave the positive benefits (willing to work hard for love), but remove any negative restrictions (feeling unloved, expected negativity, restricting love or being cold in love, etc).

Venus is currently exalted in Pisces, but will otherwise be in Taurus soon. Both opportunities are good for a Venus square, or a 40 day working with the planetary mantra of Venus.

 

[Aquarius]

Keep in mind that in a relationship spending some time alone is healthy and necessary, it's not about the partner not wanting to see you, it's about the partner wanting some time alone.

 

[karmavasita0]

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thank you so much, this will definitely be of great help to me. i will work either on Venus mantra, or Venus square. i need to learn their details at first.

Keep in mind that in a relationship spending some time alone is healthy and necessary, it's not about the partner not wanting to see you, it's about the partner wanting some time alone.

even i need some time alone. you’re right. i wouldn’t want him act this way when i need some time alone, so i shouldn’t be that delusional… thank you for reminding me this.

 

[SSinHeartandSoul]

hi,

You are not being childish, people of all ages can have the same reaction as you have. The most likely culprit for this behavior is lack of understanding, not being able to understand yourself, or the world / energies around you.

It is very much possible that your relation is not a healthy relationship, or maybe you are not ready for such an relationship yet. The best thing you can do is to keep following the path father Satan has laid out for you, advance, and get to know yourself. Talk it over with your partner if this is weighing heavy on your mind, and make a decision you are not going to regret later on. Have faith in yourself!