Context: I've grown a fond relationship with a girl I've known for four years now, we're close friends and I've been there for her for every up and down. Then less than a year ago she meets some guy, she's dating him despite the fact that he's clearly faking his love for her, and she even said (an exact quote by her) "I can't rely on him" He's cheated on her, twice now, and I actually like her, and she knows i like her more than friends too.
Issue: I started a 40 day working on a favorable day, to both separate them permanently and have her be mine, I don't think this is selfish, he's clearly bad for her, yet she's hooked on him (she sat there and defended him cheating on her because he bought her some stuffed animal) and because when her and I are together it's nothing but laughs and good times. 2 weeks into the working, they break up, not only that but our relationship felt stronger. Then, my issue arose 25 minutes before ago at the time of me writing this. No warning or anything, she stops texting me, and they're back together. Immediately after realizing the progress made looks to have just reverted instantly some bad stuff popped into my mind, I dismissed most because it's just impulsive thoughts to a bad situation, but one question did stick out.
Questions: what the fuck went wrong? I felt invincible one minute, next minute I'm watching what looks like the beginning of the end of this progress. I feel like shit right now, my throat burns, my heart is beating fast, I'm sweating, and my stomach aches, I feel like I built a ladder of false hope and just fell off. I did have the occasional doubt regarding the working when progress seemed to stagnate, but I would usually void it or swap the thought to something else, and I didn't do anything to offend her, or hurt her in any way. Should I give up? The 40 days aren't up yet, there's still more weeks left in the working, but after this, I feel like I'm beating a dead horse. Should I finish til the 40th day? Did something go wrong and I might as well quit? I don't even know what to do, both with the working, and with her in real life, it's bound to be awkward now I suppose. I really don't wanna fall into a depression over this, and I can feel the part of me (though it feels like a minority right now) that's saying don't give up on it, this all just happened less than an hour ago, anything could happen and it'll all get resolved, but with the working over halfway through to 40 days, and it does a instant 180 on me, I really don't feel like there's time left for it all to be back on decent footing before the 40th day.
Sorry for the long post, but in the midst of a barrage of negative feelings of heartbrokenness, asking the forums wtf just happened was the first productive idea in my head.
Issue: I started a 40 day working on a favorable day, to both separate them permanently and have her be mine, I don't think this is selfish, he's clearly bad for her, yet she's hooked on him (she sat there and defended him cheating on her because he bought her some stuffed animal) and because when her and I are together it's nothing but laughs and good times. 2 weeks into the working, they break up, not only that but our relationship felt stronger. Then, my issue arose 25 minutes before ago at the time of me writing this. No warning or anything, she stops texting me, and they're back together. Immediately after realizing the progress made looks to have just reverted instantly some bad stuff popped into my mind, I dismissed most because it's just impulsive thoughts to a bad situation, but one question did stick out.
Questions: what the fuck went wrong? I felt invincible one minute, next minute I'm watching what looks like the beginning of the end of this progress. I feel like shit right now, my throat burns, my heart is beating fast, I'm sweating, and my stomach aches, I feel like I built a ladder of false hope and just fell off. I did have the occasional doubt regarding the working when progress seemed to stagnate, but I would usually void it or swap the thought to something else, and I didn't do anything to offend her, or hurt her in any way. Should I give up? The 40 days aren't up yet, there's still more weeks left in the working, but after this, I feel like I'm beating a dead horse. Should I finish til the 40th day? Did something go wrong and I might as well quit? I don't even know what to do, both with the working, and with her in real life, it's bound to be awkward now I suppose. I really don't wanna fall into a depression over this, and I can feel the part of me (though it feels like a minority right now) that's saying don't give up on it, this all just happened less than an hour ago, anything could happen and it'll all get resolved, but with the working over halfway through to 40 days, and it does a instant 180 on me, I really don't feel like there's time left for it all to be back on decent footing before the 40th day.
Sorry for the long post, but in the midst of a barrage of negative feelings of heartbrokenness, asking the forums wtf just happened was the first productive idea in my head.
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